Rapport’s Top 10 Tips for Coping with “Hot and Cold” Behavior

  1. Do not chase him or her!
  2. Remember that it has nothing to do with you.
  3. Practice staying grounded until you have enough data to make a decision about what to do.
  4. Be prepared to directly question your date’s behavior in a playful manner.
  5. Watch your date’s reaction.  If you are made to feel that you are being too emotionally sensitive or he acts defensive and insensitive, he does not have the skills to be in a real relationship.
  6. Work your contacts to see if this person has a reputation you should know about. Often they do and this data is important to know.
  7. Work on cultivating real relationships in your social community.  Build a life you love!
  8. Remember that people often tell you from the beginning if they want a relationship or not.  Listen to his or her comments and watch out for the disconnect between words and behavior.
  9. Take a time out and get grounded about what you want.  Continue dating other people until you find what you want.
  10. Cultivate a sense of gratitude of the positive moments and self-compassion for those times you are upset with your date’s behavior.


Dr. Jennifer Rhodes

Dr. Jennifer Rhodes

Licensed Psychologist and Founder of Rapport Relationships

Dr. Jennifer Rhodes is a dating coach and seduction expert.  She provides dating strategy, consultation, and date coaching services to clients all over the world.  She a dating coach based in NYC and a frequently sought out media expert on the topics of seduction, dating, divorce, and relationships.

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